To switch things up, let’s enjoy a small piece of wisdom for today’s article. It’s been awhile since we have had an article that contains valuable information that is applicable to real life relationships, but here we go!
With experience, comes wisdom. This is very true. As you get older, you realize that all the stuff your mom and dad tried to tell you, was right all along. With youth, comes ego. We tend to not believe the things older people tell us because when we are young we think we know what is right, but actually only experience can bring true wisdom.
At 45, I recently learned a very valuable lesson I would like to share with the youth to save you the trouble in your later years. This will save you time, money, and heartache. Yes, it is a relationship tip, but it is probably one you might not have heard before, so I hope this helps someone out there.
With relationships, they say things like, opposites attract, and find someone who is educated or find someone who has a great job, but here is a perspective you might not have considered. Find someone who has a hobby. Huh. Yes, a hobby or in other words, something the person enjoys doing on their freetime that is constructive, creative, or skill based.
So lets say you are a person with a hobby. You get home from work, and right away, everyday, you go straight to this thing that you love to do, because it is your passion. Thats a beautiful thing because we should all have something we enjoy doing. But now let’s say for example, your partner, or the person you are in a relationship with, does not have a hobby or a passion for something. This will become a major problem in your life in the long run, because your partner will begin to feel alienated and jealous that you spend time doing this thing that you love to do rather than spending time with that person. That person will be very clingy and won’t be able to do anything without you, and we all need time for ourselves even when in a relationship. Emotions such as envy, anger, hatred, begin to grow within your partners mind for this thing that you love to do, and eventually they will seek to destroy this passion you have, or try to steer you away from it, and this will create a break in the bond of your relationship.
So in short, if you have a passion or a hobby, NEVER date or be in a relationship with a person who does not have a passion or a hobby for themselves. These are very wise words, and I would highly recommend you to analyze the person you are seeking relations with and determine if they have a passion for something other than you or not. If not, find someone else, honestly. There are millions of people out there, you can find another, it is very easy, and if you truly seek the one you are looking for, you will find that person. Settling on the first one that comes along is a disasterous move, so you realy need to be careful.
If two people both have a hobby or passion, there will be a mutual respect because both of you know how much you love this thing that you do, and you wouldnt want to take your loved one away from the thing that they do, just as much as you wouldn’t want anyone to take you away from the thing that you love to do, so the relationship will be very good. There will be support for each other, rather than envy or jealousy, or feeling like one is lesser than the other, and desperately seeking attention, because if you do not give them the attention, they will find it somewhere else, or they will actively work towards taking you away from the thing that you love to do.
In all my years, i would say that this is the most valuable piece of relationship advice I have ever encountered, and it took my own life choices to visualize it. So rather than keep it to myself, I’m giving this away to you, in the hopes that you make the right decision, to save you time, money, and love. This is million dollar wisdom, take it into consideration. Look at the person you love, are they passionate about something other than you? Do they have a hobby they enjoy doing? Do they have any skill? If not, and you do, then you might need to keep looking. If you both don’t have a hobby or skill, then that is good too, things should be fine, but if one of you does and the other doesn’t, you might want to consider to keep searching for that special someone, beause if you don’t, your life will be miserable, and it will not last.
Wisdom is the most valuable thing you can receive from anyone, take heed at your own will, always think critically, and most importantly, stick to your passions, do what you love to do, and don’t let anyone take you away from it. Thank you for reading. I wish you all the best in your relationship search, we all need someone, but it can’t be just anyone. There are millions of fish in the sea.
By: Daryl Koschak, Assistant Director of Studies, Aii Central, MT